What happens to seniors who age solo and have no spouse, children, or family nearby to help them? This isn’t just a hypothetical question for millions of older adults—it’s their reality.
In the United States, approximately 22 million seniors are considered solo agers, meaning they don’t have immediate family members to rely on as they age.
On March 5th, The Kensington White Plains invited aging seniors to a national webinar, “Caring for Solo Agers: Building Your Support System for Successful Aging,” featuring Steve Gurney, Founder of the Positive Aging Community.
Gurney explored the complexities of aging alone and provided actionable strategies for building a reliable support network.
Keep reading for some tips and insight on how to build a reliable support network, gain access to resources available to seniors, and learn proactive steps to ensure a secure and fulfilling aging journey.
What is solo aging? Why is it a growing reality?
Solo aging has become much more common today than ever in history.
With shifting family structures, increased longevity, and more adults choosing to remain single, solo aging is rising.
28% of adults over 65 now live alone, and many find themselves without immediate family for support due to divorce, widowhood, or children living far away.
While aging solo presents challenges—such as planning for healthcare, housing, and social support— today is the best time to be a solo ager.
With expanding community programs, advanced care options, and strong support networks, aging alone doesn’t mean aging without help.
Proactive planning ensures that solo agers maintain independence, security, and connection throughout their later years.
How do we deal with aging alone?
Aging alone may not be what you expected, but you are far from powerless.
The key is to recognize the challenges early and take action now to stay in control of your future.
Face the reality of aging solo — and own it
Ignoring the realities of solo aging won’t make them go away. You must be your own advocate and take charge of your well-being.
Taking charge of your well-being means:
- Acknowledging the challenges: Health concerns, financial planning, and maintaining social connections.
- Accepting that you need a plan: The sooner you put one in place, the more independence you’ll maintain.
- Understanding that aging alone doesn’t mean being alone: Resources and people are ready to support you.
Stay mentally and emotionally strong
Mindset matters. Staying engaged and maintaining a positive outlook can make all the difference.
Here’s how to keep your mental and emotional well-being in check:
- Stay active and challenge yourself: Exercise, take up a hobby, or join a class—physical and mental activity keeps you sharp.
- Create a daily structure: A routine gives you a sense of purpose and keeps loneliness at bay.
- Find meaning in your independence: You can design your own future—embrace it.
How do I prepare for old age without family?
If you don’t have a family to fall back on, you need to create your own safety net.
The best time to plan is before you need help, not after.
Lock in legal and financial security:
- Set up a power of attorney: Choose someone you trust to handle financial and medical decisions if needed.
- Get your estate in order: Write a will and ensure your assets are protected and distributed according to your wishes.
- Understand long-term care options: Research what’s available and payment options. Medicare doesn’t cover everything.
Choose your key decision-makers:
- Identify a healthcare proxy: If you can’t, this person will make medical decisions.
- Find a trusted advisor: An elder law attorney or financial planner can help secure your assets and care plan.
- Build a small, reliable support team: This could be a close friend, a neighbor, or a professional advocate.
How to build a reliable support network
Isolation is the most considerable risk of aging alone, so make connection a priority.
- Strengthen existing friendships: Call, visit, and reconnect with those you trust.
- Join community groups: Senior centers, libraries, and faith organizations offer built-in support and companionship.
- Explore intergenerational friendships: Younger friends bring fresh energy and can become part of your long-term network.
- Consider a housemate: Co-living with another senior or a trusted individual can provide social and financial benefits.
Resources available for solo agers
Aging alone doesn’t mean aging without support. There are numerous resources to help solo agers stay independent, connected, and secure.
Local Resources in White Plains, NY:
- Westchester County Senior Services: Offers transportation, meal programs, and wellness initiatives
- DOROT’s Aging Alone Together®: A six-week program helping solo agers build support networks
- White Plains Public Library: Provides educational programs, social activities, and community resources
- The Kensington White Plains: Our ever-changing calendar of events and social gatherings is perfectly designed to keep members of our community active, connected, and engaged. Our team is also here to support you and your families in navigating the care journey.
National Resources:
- Eldercare Locator: Connects older adults to local support services
- Village to Village Network: Helps create community-led senior support groups
- Navigating Solo Network: Offers education, advocacy, and social connections for solo agers
How to access services:
- Assess your needs: Identify what support you require (transportation, healthcare, social engagement).
- Contact local agencies: Westchester County Senior Services and Eldercare Locator can help.
- Join community programs: Senior centers, libraries, and online communities offer valuable support.
You’re never aging alone with The Kensington White Plains
The Kensington White Plains provides solo seniors with a secure and comforting environment for the journey ahead.
Our assisted living and memory care community offers a complete range of healthcare services, allowing residents to age in place and stay where they feel most at home.
We also specialize in dementia and Alzheimer’s support, ensuring each resident has the care they need at every stage.
Solo seniors gain peace of mind and control over their future by planning proactively with The Kensington White Plains.
Contact our dedicated team to learn how we make solo aging accessible, dignified, and worry-free.